Greg's Corner

Just how methodical are romance scammers?

By Greg Collier

There seems to be this impression that victims of romance scams are just lonely and lovesick people who fall head over heels for their scammer immediately. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Romance scammers are very good at what they do and are very meticulous in grooming their victims. The scammer could string their victim along for months before they even think about asking for money.

For example, a Massachusetts woman met her scammer in October of last year. She met him on a dating site, and she believed he was a hardworking widower. The victim states that the scammer acted like a perfect gentleman and gave no hint of being a con artist.

He claimed to be an oil pipeline worker, who was on a job in Saudi Arabia. For those who are familiar with romance scams, this would have been a double red flag. Not only do romance scammers often pose as people who work overseas, they also pose as offshore oil rig workers. Both of these are done so the scammer can maintain plausible deniability as to why they can’t meet in person.

Getting back to the story, the scammer provided the woman with a copy of his passport, and the couple even had video calls together. The news report does not go into specifics, but we have to wonder if some kind of AI was involved in the video calls or if this was a case of a brief video before the scammer claimed his camera malfunctioned. Either way, the victim had no reason to believe she was on the road to being scammed.

It wasn’t for another six months before the scammer started asking the victim for money. He told her that he was having trouble accessing his bank account and needed to buy a specific part to do his job. Once the victim sent the money after this first request, subsequent requests for money followed. Before it was all over, the victim had sent $200,000 to her scammer. It wasn’t until he failed to meet her at the airport when she realized she was being scammed. The scammer claimed to be in the hospital after a car crash.

However, the scammer continued to call her asking for money. When that didn’t work, the scammer posed as an FBI agent, telling her not to talk to anyone about being scammed. So on top of a romance scam, we get a police impersonation scam as well. There is no depth scammers won’t sink to.

In conclusion, the tales of romance scammers who invest months in their deceitful ploys serve as a stark reminder of the need for vigilance and caution in the digital age. These cunning individuals manipulate emotions, trust, and vulnerability to achieve their malicious goals. By sharing stories and raising awareness about this issue, we empower ourselves and our loved ones to recognize the signs and protect against such heart-wrenching scams.